Decision to take a risk is one of the most difficult things to do

I loved catching butterflies when I was young. I would hold them in my hands and watch them struggle to move out. The way they flapped their wings, got tired, tried again and then loved the surprise when I actually flew them off, was one of my most favourite past times.

I was too young to understand that this process pains them and what is a fun thing for me, is actually a torturous time for those beautiful creatures.

After all these years, when I myself was like a butterfly caged and gagged into doing things I didn’t want to, I realize what pain, struggle & freedom truly means.

There are moments in our lives, when we just continue to flow in the waters, without knowing how to swim. We are too scared to take the risk of putting our feet on the ground, lest we fall down. Some of us are positive hopefuls, who keep struggling in that water, in the hope that we can change the course of tides, and the water would soon become a perfect haven for us. But then it doesn’t happen. We start feeling sad, we lose interest, we fight within and outside and we just become miserable.

And then comes a time when we have had enough. We decide it’s time to move on, for our sanity and peace of mind. We decide to take a risk and without knowing what happens next, we become sure of the fact that the present can’t continue to work forever. We come out of the troubling waters and breathe the most refreshing air ever.

Our jobs, relationships, commitments & upbringing force us to be the struggling butterflies often. The fear of taking the plunge, of breaking the chains, of exploring new things is real and natural. No matter how many motivational messages & inspirational stories we read when it comes to taking that step, we are scared.

It takes a lot of mental strength to choose to do what needs to be done and what is right. Everyone around us wants us to play safe, to be secure and be happy. Unfortunately, it is in exactly this order.

Take some time today, to congratulate those who have taken the risk to come out of a place which was making them unhappy. Don’t judge them, ridicule them, laugh at them for their stupidity- just acknowledge the fact that they did what makes them happy.

I can tell from my personal experience, that this friend, relative, sibling, spouse of yours is showing his strength to you from outside- because he needs to convince you for the decision he took, but is absolutely shaken and weak from inside- because of the lingering doubts of future.

Acknowledge the fact that the butterfly had to move on, before it died in its struggle for freedom. Trust him and be with him because you would need someone to trust you when you take this step in your life.